Wamaitha Njuguna Nairobi Kenya
Have you ever just sat down and wondered what your life would be like if you didn't make certain choices in life?
Like if you never took that job offer that came up when you were on the verge of being kicked out of your mortgaged home?or if you still didn't hang around those 'friends' whom you can't really tell if they deserve to be addressed so?
What if you had not listened to your mom when she said you should leave your darling wife in the village while you 'work'(I use this lightly because we've all listened to Rihanna') in the city?.
It is most certain that things would totally be different had we all made different choices in life.
Sometimes however,it's not easy for us to differentiate between what we want from that which our friends and families dean right.It has always been said that you should let people guide and advise you but never let them make decisions for you.
Imagine of a scenario where you have been having issues with your spouse for just a few days.Being in dire need of a counsellor's session,you decide to use your friends for advice.There's always the first one to tell you that she knows you two are heading nowhere and that she has been warning you about the guy for the longest time now.
She's in a relationship herself.You keep on seeing her with a blue,black and red eye every now and then but she claims 'alianguka kwa bafu',and you keep on wondering whether she showers on top of a stool or what!
She will never admit that the boyfriend keeps on installing landmarks on her body due to his violent nature.
There's the other one who is always eyeing for an opportunity for you two to break up.
She never tells you openly but she will keep on hinting that your sweetheart is too demanding,stingy and doesn't know how to treat you right.Did she tell you that they once had lunch while you were out of town and she even tried luring him for drinks later that night.We all know what would have transpired had your bae consented to her wild demands.
Last but not least,there's the one who is always single but has the best advice ever.Although sometimes you cannot tell whether she has really helped you because in the end you will feel like you just moved from better to worse.She leaves you in limbo.
My point is how you react to these three 'typical friends will have a great impact on the kind of relationship you and your spouse will have.It doesn't have to be in your love life only but in your general life.It will always be up to you to make decisions that seem fit for you.
There is no ugly feeling like having to live your life full of regrets simply because you did(do) not make the right choices.In the end when things turn messy you will only have you to blame.
You only live once after all.