The 9 relationship stages that all coup Nairobi
The 9 relationship stages that all couples experience.
Are you in a new relationship? Or are you in a seasoned relationship with someone you’ve been with for several years?
It doesn’t matter how long your relationship has lasted, because all the relationships will fit snugly in one of these relationship stages.
Find your own relationship stage here, and it’ll definitely help you understand your own love life better.
Stage #1 The infatuation stage.
This is the first stage in every relationship. It almost always starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely sexually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.
Stage #2 The understanding stage.
In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.
Stage #3 The stage of disturbances.
This stage usually forces its way into a happy romance after a few months of blissful courting. Do you remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.
Stage #4 The opinion maker. In this stage, both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship.
When these opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed.
You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.
Stage #5 The moulding stage.
You have your own expectations from an ideal partner. And in this stage, both of you try hard to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are domineering.
Stage #6 The happy stage.
If the relationship survives past the moulding stage, both of you may have changed equally for each other and understood each other’s expectations. In this stage, the relationship cruises along perfectly and both of you may be blissfully happy with each other.
Almost always, this is the stage when both of you feel like a perfect match. You may even decide to get engaged or get married. This happy stage is also the stage of attachment when both of you truly feel connected to each other and love each other intensely.
Stage #7 The stage of doubts.
It’s been several years since both of you have been in a relationship with each other. And somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in. The intensity of the doubts depend on how happy both of you are in the relationship.
You start to think of your past relationships, your exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re unhappy, you blame it on the relationship.
In this stage, you start comparing your relationship with other couples and other relationships. Would your relationship survive this stage? It definitely could, as long as your relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive.
Stage #8 The sexual exploration or bust stage.
This is the stage when your sex life starts to play a pivotal role. Both your sex drives may change or one of you may get disinterested in sex.
In this stage, you either give up on passionate sex or constantly look for ways to make sex more exciting. If sexual interests start differing here, one of you may end up having an affair. But on the other hand, if you find creative ways to make sex more exciting, your relationship could get better and bring both of you a lot closer.
Stage #9 The stage of complete trust.
This is the happy stage when both of you love each other and trust each other completely. But at the same time, the unbreakable trust in each other could also turn into taking each other for granted.
In this stage, both of you know the direction of the relationship and both of you are completely happy with each other and find it easy to predict each other’s behavior and decisions. But with stability in love comes the urge to take each other for granted. As pleasant as this final stage of love may be, it’s still no excuse to take each other lightly or stop appreciating each other, because love is an intense emotion that can be rekindled by anyone else at any time if you fail to express your romance to your lover.
If you’re in a relationship for a while, you may have experienced all or most of these relationship stages. And if you’re still in a young love, don’t let the dark side of these relationship stages scare you.
Maddawgzmusic President $ENSEI &VP Maddawgzmusic Lord raww have today released new song “SHAWTY.” Featuring Artsit BLACK HAVOC .The catchy Two-Minutes and 46 seconds song
has that classic sound and feel to it throughout and follows up from
last Friday’s release well-received "PULL UP & MASHASH . Is it safe to say that the two heads of the Music Label are a force to rekon within the Kenya Music Industry and maybe overseas ?? With Hit Songs such as "Yaani " and "SHAWTY making noise,only Time will tell.https://audiomack.com/maddawgzmusic/song/shawty-ensei
When the word comes to mind my first perception is that this is a great continent blessed with a diverse number of things like minerals, food in plenty and a large plain area that could be used in various production activities that could earn revenue to the government in return.
I have been intrigued to write this article to understand the drive behind our African leaders and I believe this article will cut across the whole continent based on the similaityr system of management used throughout the continent.
Let’s start with the commonest thing viewed in Africa which is foreign aid for development purposes, as per me there should be strict accountability that follows up on the money donated which are in millions of dollars, let’s call a spade a spade being born and bred in Africa I can attest on how greedy our leaders are foreign governments should really inquire on how the finances were spent otherwise you guys are assisting in bringing the whole continent to a standstill with the gap between the rich and the poor widening further. Africa is like an aircraft that is being flown by pilots that did not go to flying school every leader acts as if they don’t have any experience in what they are spearheading.
Africa leadership needs diagnosing and assessment of the entire leadership culture which will be done well when there is a consensus that believes that our leadership is in a crisis state.
Change is possible by educating the youths and teenagers in schools on the importance of being patriotic while the same time educating them on the importance of having good amenities in the country for a sustainable future. If we tackle this issue of corruption once and for all we will be able to improve our living standards and increase our gross domestic product per ca pita.
Written by Paul Ngesa.
To many of us, our perception of the good life has been entangled to so many attributes thus making life to be very complicated, we don't need to make any changes to our personalities or the people around us because it's something that can never be achieved even if we wanted it to happen, so the question is how do we live our lives to the fullest without altering people or anything within us.
Psychology states that all human beings are good in humanistic approach, below are five things that have kept me moving towards enjoying my life to the fullest:
I realized that before i used to focus more on other peoples well being while neglecting myself at the same time but after realizing this fundamental thing i started focusing on me more, i could go for some walk around my community and still enjoy the scenery to the fullest.
Living a day at a time.
Globally there is a slight recess in the economy and many of us have been subjected to no pay or half salaries and some have experienced late salaries due to COVID 19 epidemic but this should not limit us from living our life, i was extremely stressed at first about catering for my family and if not addressed i could be heading to high stress levels but i found a way through my 5-month-old baby who is always happy and he just ignited my life back just like that am trying to say that there are some things that are way beyond us we just need to find a way of moving on, there is something or someone when you look up to you rejuvenate yourself back by making you laugh or just happy. I have a few friends who mean everything to me so please look for friends with a toothpick a saying that i learnt from one of my dearest friend.
My first step was to include positivity in my thinking, you can do all things the Obama slogan is a fundamental thing needed to drive us in our day to day lives which makes you happy in the long run even if you fail at the first attempt.
Tracking your day's activity
At times we might think that we have wasted the whole day but when we retract our steps we could see that the day was well utilized, at times people might say that if it doesn't make you happy find a way around it for you to enjoy what you do when we were kids we all had our ambitions and desires but where we are at the moment we change the mindset of everything we do to suit our desires and while our ambitions are still intact we can always upgrade in future when you have the resources no human is limited.
Last but not least we always need to be satisfied which what we have at the moment and work smart in achieving more, realistically when a person is satisfied it creates a happy feeling personally it happens to me i don't know about you.
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Cancellation of academic calendar in Kenya.
When COVID-19 started It looked like a China's problem. As time went by,it dawned to all it wasnt but a global challenge.
In Kenya,its impact was felt from 13th march 2020 when the first case was reported. A day after all schools were closed down to control the spread of the virus.
Schools have been closed since then.
Yesterday,Prof George Magoha the minister in charge of education gave out the much awaited communication on the resumption of the school calendar. In his communication he said that schools can only open in January 2021 for both primary and secondary schools.
He also pointed out that its only tertiary institutions that will resume studies in september. this year.
As a result,KCSE and KCPE 2020 have been cancelled to be undertaken later next year.
Parents have to bear the burden of taking care of their children a's they remain at home until next year. . about the school
Kisumu Police Officer To Be Charged With Attempted Murder After Shooting Husband For Not Picking Calls
A Kisumu police officer has been arrested after she shot at her husband twice.
Administration officer Maureen Awuor, 35, attached to CIPU headquarters in Kisumu East, is said to have quarreled with her spouse on Sunday, July 5.
She accused him on not picking up her calls and giving their domestic worker Sh50 for lunch without consulting her.